No ComparisonsPosted: July 17, 2010
When you are dealing with something difficult in life, especially something within your control (such as your career path), it’s best not to compare yourself to other people and think “Why is it that all these other people can do this and I feel so miserable?”
Everyone is different and what makes someone else happy might not make you happy. Each person also has unique talents that shine in some environments and flounder in others. Find the environment that makes you shine and pursue it. You will be happier and more successful once you do some internal exploration and self- assessments to determine your unique abilities and talents, and once you use them in a way that interests you.
Also, remember that maybe those people you are comparing yourself to are reading this blog in search of answers, just like you, and are just as, if not more, miserable than you are. They may have just numbed the pain, telling themselves that it is just delayed gratification, while taking solace in alcohol, drugs, therapy, and expensive wardrobes in the meantime. All the while they may not realize that that day of delayed gratification may never arrive. Delayed gratification works only temporarily. It is not a way of life. Never forget that.
Or maybe those people you are comparing yourself to love what they do. You either love something or you don’t. You can’t fake it. Faking it is not sustainable long term. After all your authentic self knows you are faking it and this will make you unhappy in the long run. So if you don’t love it, don’t ask yourself why you don’t love it. You just don’t. Accept it, try to find what you do love, and move on.
So instead of looking to other people for answers and making comparisons to other people, look within yourself. Therein lie all the answers you need.